Help, I Want My Ex Back!

Grasping At Past Love

 

If you're feeling compelled to fixate on your ex, this is a really good sign that it's time to fixate on yourself as much as you're thinking about them. If you almost can't even help yourself, use it as an opportunity to think of them, but also learn. Put all those memories you can't stop thinking about into a notebook; make lists out of them. Write out times when they hurt you and when you hurt them. What about things you admire in them? Do you think you may have that quality in yourself? If you do, don't forget to spend some extra time patting YOU on the back for that quality. 

Most of us cling to how intoxicating the love-making was or how bad the break-up hurt, but what we all truly seek is a love that won't disappoint us. And we all go through a phase where it's extremely hard and irritating to hear this: The love that won't disappoint us is the consistent love we can give ourselves every day.

 The best part about this is ...the thing you feel like you really want, 'another human being to essentially be your everything' or maybe for some of you, a soul mate, many times through the law of attraction, the law of nature, this comes on its own after we've become truly dedicated to loving ourselves.